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和下屬飯局的藝術 — 好老細必學法則

Summary

By @fm_too_raw (半宅職薯，《無權力領導學》作者). A guide on the art of dining with subordinates as a boss — how to be authoritative without being overbearing, stylish yet considerate.

Key Principles

Why dine with subordinates:

  • It’s stressful for them (戰戰兢兢) — offset with incentives (boss pays)
  • Goal: listen to their needs, share your values, build trust beyond daily work

Choosing the restaurant:

  • Walking distance (no transport needed)
  • Fast service (don’t eat into their break)
  • Consider dietary restrictions

Chinese dim sum ordering:

  • Assign the most junior person to order
  • State your preferences upfront (“I’m happy with 蝦餃 and 叉燒包, everyone order what you like”)
  • Reduces pressure of guessing what boss wants

Western restaurant:

  • Order first so subordinates have a price reference
  • They’ll naturally pick similar or slightly cheaper options

Lunch topics:

  • Save work talk for the end
  • Keeps atmosphere relaxed, then transition to action items + leave together

Dinner tactics:

  • Arrive 15 min late (covers for late subordinates, maintains your presence)
  • Leave early — gives them space to vent freely without you present
  • Don’t discuss work (they’ll forget after drinks + sleep anyway)

Takeaway

飯局是互相了解、建立信任的藝術。君子之交淡如水，畫出最佳距離，知所進退。